Just changed my blogskin yesterday, I kind of like this skin alot. As it is done by myself and only I am using it. haha. People... you are suppose to click on the word for navigation, not click on the pic. I'll try to adjust the Navi later on, kinda of lazy now.


I read one of the article months back on the newspaper. The topic was on the rising rate of divorces, it said something about the earning power of the ladies causing the independency and overiding of the male gender which cause the divorces. I was feeling "what the hack!" when I read this article. Yes, there is a rising rate but it does not means that its due to we women with more earning power. Does it means that if we ladies were to stay home to cook, wash and clean the divorce rate is goin to go down? I doubt so. SO I seriously think that article is all bullshit. The main reason for the high rate is due to the culture concept of the 21st century. We are no longer as conservative as the 80s/90s. Don't tell me that the mother-in-law is still going to the newly wed's bedroom to see if its stain with blood? I don't think so right? On top of that newly wed usually will stay in the hotel room.

Rather women now are more educated, they wun do the "jia ji shwei ji, jia gou shwei gou" thingy anymore. They have more choice and more sure of what they want (or rather they feel they know). For the males you guys have more open choice as ladies are more open to the relationship. This increase the temptation around them. We cant just put the blames on the ladies regarding about the increased rate. Its the culture that change thats all and everything takes 2 hands to clap.

I got on to this topic as I felt that marriage commitments are no longer that strong in this century anymore. Alot of us got married due to babies (mind you I'm not married yet), very few actually will say "hey I want to get married". While I there are some, but after those who got married, how many will stay married with each other for the rest of their lives. As a chinese saying "Marriage is the coffin of love" maybe due to our comfortable lifes we seems to take things for granted with the people around us.

For my parents right now, they are goin thorugh seperation. After 23 years of marriage, they decided its time to seperate now. Making suffer from this seperation by handling the houshold burden to me. They should have seperated long time ago but my mum said that we were young then. We (my brother and I) will suffer if they seperate early. WHat the diff since I still have to suffer now. I just can't understand my parents. From their failure I see the mistake which will cause to have no faith in marriage. Make me hate to have children and make them suffer.

Right now I just feel numb. After years and years of repeating senerio, they finally want it to come to an end. I don't know should I feel sad or should I be glad. Just hope that things will get better soon or later.

"Never pretend to a love which you do not actually feel, for love is not ours to command."